Hey Lovelies,
Sorry for my absence last Thursday. The entire household caught Norovirus and then a cold on top of it. It was not pretty. But, we are finally on the mend and hopefully we’ll sidestep any other major illnesses this season. While we were laying around recovering I took some time to go through the list of blogs and resources to update it. I realized pretty quickly that damn near everyone on that list has gone on to become parents and a lot of them aren’t updating their blogs much, if at all, anymore. I was struck with the duality of this community. We all band together in some of the worst circumstances but often it is a fleeting comradery. So often it is but a few year stint that we do in the land of IF. Which made me realize just how fucking strong those of you are who have been here a lot longer. To all my still infertile friends who battle it out in the trenches for years or even decades, watching those you love fall to the wayside and move on, I want to offer you support. I know, I am also one of those people who wound up with a baby and so I need to mostly STFU, but I wanted you to know that I see you. Struggling forward, again, still… I applaud you. I am sorry your journey wasn’t shorter.
XOXXO,
The Chicken
Ps: Also, please, dear god, help me find more blogs to add to this list so it stays current for people looking for active in the trenches support! Add those blogs I should check out in the comments! Thanks!
Yep, still in the trenches here! Thanks for the support! I also wish that everyone could have an easier journey x
Dubliner,
Me too. It’s hard enough without lasting decades!
XOXXO, The Chicken
I am guilty of falling off the blog wagon for sure. I know you know how it is once the baby comes. Life just gets so hectic (not that those without children don’t have hectic lives)! It just feels like I’m drowning in keeping the baby healthy and happy and my personal goals (blogging, IF connections, etc) end up taking a back seat.
I resolved in 2017 to be more involved with the IF community and I’m already failing. 🙁
Kim,
Woman, preach. I guess the positive side of this is that it’s still early in the year, lots of time to make up lost ground.
XOXXO, The Chicken
I was just discussing this topic with my sister the other day. I am lucky enough to be 7 weeks pregnant, after 4 years of TTC and several failed treatments (including IVF). I do feel bad for backing away from the twitter community recently, since those ladies kept me sane during some VERY low times, but, at the same time, that community is unfortunately a constant reminder of all the horrible things that can still go wrong in the next 33 weeks and beyond. I need to stay positive and not stress about those possibilities, and I’m struggling with how I can do that and stay involved in the community right now.
RFB,
Congrats to you, lady! I completely understand. Sometimes it is very important for your sanity and health to back away slowly. I pray everything goes well for your pregnancy and birth and you get a healthy baby home soon!
XOXXO, The Chicken
Wait, what am I missing? Is there a list you have somewhere?
I agree with you, and it makes me sad. 95% of the bloggers I followed either went away or rarely posted. I can see why people stop. And maybe it’s because I’m a writer, I have a job where I’m paid to write articles, that I stay blogging. Because my blog is my home to write whatever I want. And I can’t imagine stopping. But I love writing and blogging, so it’s easy for me to say that. I’m glad you’re still writing too.
Risa,
YES!!! I have a resource section (found along the top of the page is the menu) also click here . I’m glad I’m still blogging, it’s a lot of work, but worth it at this point still.
XOXXO, The Chicken
It’s very painful to see people just “move on” and leave anyone that doesn’t fit into their circle behind. I doubt it will ever change, sadly.
Ms. Infertile,
I think you’re right it is part of the community that not all want to linger. It’s a painful place. I wish it were different though.
XOXXO, The Chicken
I love when you ladies have babies, and then continue to blog. I find it gives people like me hope…and we need all the hope we can get! Even when I’m in my darkest moments, I like reading these blogs because they often make me laugh and that is certainly better than crying.
So keep on keeping on and don’t STFU…we appreciate you! 🙂
(I have been following you for EVA but under a couple different blog names while I was finding my place).
Raven,
I’m glad you find it gives you hope! Yeah, laughs over tears has always been my motto! Glad you feel like you’ve found your web home now! Baby dust!
XOXXO, The Chicken
No babies, no plans but here for 4 and would love to see you around too. 🙂
Parul,
I’ve no plans to walk away just yet! lol.
XOXXO, The Chicken
Thank you for continuing to blog!!! I really enjoy reading your posts. And these resources are so helpful. Here is another blog that I follow: http://www.seedfertility.com/blog/
Thank you for the support. Wishing you all the best. xo
Ellen,
I’m so glad you are enjoying the blog. Thanks for the recommendation.
XOXXO, The Chicken
Hi Unpregant Chicken, I’ve started following your blog after I starting writing my own. Its still fresh and not as robust as yours but maybe it will strike a note? I try to write it from a more spiritual (NOT religious) point of view. I think what you would consider a newbie as accepting that, I am infertile, is not something I was willing to do as it sounded so negative. I connected with you before. On a side note, I wrote a few prof. friends and suggested how I could enhance their curriculum.
Aga,
Hello again! It takes a long time to build up a good cache of blog posts, I’ve been at this almost 3 years! I am glad you found an angle that resonates with yourself best, not everyone is comfortable owning the title of infertile. I hope you get in to give some talks! Keep me posted!
XOXXO, The Chicken