Lovelies,
I have never experienced a miscarriage. I know that they are shockingly common, but I was ignorant to what they would be like. To an extent I still am, as first hand knowledge is the only thing that can make you truly aware, but now I have been told in graphic detail. You see, many of my friends have had miscarriages… They have told me about the unexpected terrifying gush of blood. The continued bleeding that lasts weeks. And how when you actually physically miscarry it can be a lot like being in labour… it IS labour, really.
How cruel.
To have labour pains with no take home baby afterwards. To feel the urge to bare down and not hear your baby cry at the end of it all. Nature is such a bitch. No wonder some of my friends develop PTSD in relation to the experience. It’s a fucking miracle that not everyone does. I wish there was more awareness to the actual gory details of what a miscarriage can entail (not all are the same), that way maybe there would be more compassion.
Just some food for thought.
The Chicken
I think there is information. Due to blogging and message boards, people are talking more and more about this. But given the topic and the attitude that “it will never happen to me” many don’t look for that information until after the fact. I think there’s an understandable fear to do so.
With my second miscarriage, I went through labor like cramps which lasted for 4 days (I was only 5 weeks along). I didn’t understand what was happening. It was because of that experience that when I was pregnant with the Beats I forced myself to learn about signs of premature labor. Though I don’t regret doing so, I had several panic attacks from doing so. So I do understand why many don’t educate themselves as it is frightening.
Cristy,
That’s probably true too. It’s not something you search unless you are in need. It is really frightening.
XOXXO, The Chicken