Hey there Lovelies,
So, the time has come, this week I go back to lecturing about infertility. You might remember that last year I started giving University lectures related to infertility and I was invited back to do so again. A happily accepted as I very much enjoyed doing it and think it is beyond important. I wondered if I would feel different about it this year after giving birth to my son, and I do… I feel like it’s even more important! I really do still feel driven to not only advocate but, more importantly, educate.
Maybe it’s because I’m a teacher. Maybe it’s just my personality. But educating is deeply important to me. Either way it feels crucial to be speaking about infertility. The talks this term are focused on the sexual mechanics, or lack thereof, when infertile; and the emotional implications of being infertile in our child-centric culture. I am beyond pumped to give them.
Infertility is so often something that people that haven’t gone through it cannot fully understand. I’m not saying that my talks make the students experts in infertility, I’m not even implying that they really “get” it after my lecture, but they are less blind.
They understand some of the challenges that people experience while trying to conceive and what it might look like to have to work around those challenges in order to become a parent. They also understand more about the costs (physical, emotional and monetarily) that come from having to deal with a condition that renders one unable to conceive on their own. Not to mention why our culture is beyond fucked up when it comes to just expecting people to procreate, and how it can really mess with you if you can’t.
I’ve heard from the professors I worked with last year that students have reached out about my talks and thanked them: for helping them understand more of what a friend was going through, for preparing them for the diagnosis that they later received, for making them feel less alone. That is the reason I do this. Because the students I often talk to are just beginning to enter their child bearing years and many will face these challenges, or know someone who does, in the years that are coming. Having met me, and heard me speak about it, they are, hopefully, better informed and will be better equipped to deal with it.
It’s my hope that you all, in the infertility community, feel I’m still an acceptable representative and are in full support of my advocacy.
Wish me luck,